Dealing with toddler emotions. I want to warn you that this is not a post about helping your toddler deal with their fear of monsters. That post may come later on when we have to handle the fear of monsters, but we aren’t quite there yet. This is a post about toddlers who have meltdowns like monsters.
I am sure you have heard the term “terrible twos” before. Basically, it means that when your cute little bundle of joy turns two, they become a terror. If you would like to read our experience with the terrible twos click here.
And what do I mean by a terror? Well in a blink of an eye these little people can go from happy and smiling to bawling and screaming. So what type of meltdown monsters are there?
The “Wrong Cup” monster
Boy, do they lose it when they are given the wrong cup. Of course, every toddler has a favorite color or character and when they have to use a cup that is not their favorite, their world is ending in their minds.
This could also happen with a specific toy, a certain outfit or pretty much anything that they want.
The “I am fighting a nap, but actually need a nap” monster
Toddlers still need naps, if they miss a nap they become grouchy. My boys are notorious for fighting naps but actually need one to feel refreshed. Even my three year old still needs naps and honestly, most adults need a nap. So avoiding that monster is best. Or even just allowing quiet time where they can lay down and rest for a bit is great for everyone.
The “Let me do” monster
Toddlers are wanting more independence as they grow. There are a few things that they are able to do themselves and then others that we as parents would like to continue doing for them. But if they think they are capable of doing it then the “Let me do” monster shows.
The “NO” monster
This is a lovely age when they learn the fact that they can say “no”. You ask them to clean up toys, “no”. You ask them to go change, “no”. You ask them anything they will most likely say “no”. And when you make them do what you ask, then the monster rears its ugly head and the meltdown will break out.
The “I don’t know how to handle what I am feeling” monster
Toddlers are just figuring out their emotions, but do not know how to handle them. When they are upset, mad, frustrated, or sad, they usually just tend to cry or throw a fit.
This is such a pivotal time for our little beings. They are just starting to talk and may not be able to communicate what they want, which can lead to a meltdown.
Toddlers need to experience emotions and understand the appropriate ways to deal with those emotions. Emotions are difficult, even for adults, so the sooner they understand emotions the better.
In the moment of the meltdown is a great time to have a conversation about what they are feeling and how they should handle that emotion.
Now don’t get me wrong I know I will look back on this time and miss it greatly. But it definitely can be a hard time for both the toddler and parent.
I hope you found something relatable in this post and able to help your toddler through these difficult years. Dealing with toddler emotions.
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